You ever know one of those people who, when you offer a hand because you really want to offer a hand, they look at you and tell you very politely that your hand isn't up to their standards, but then you turn around and suddenly they have taken your hand and now you have a leg missing too?  And then, because your hand and leg are missing and it is causing some problems, you decide to sell a kidney?  And your only stipulation is that the person purchasing the kidney give you the small amount of money to pay for the equipment for the surgery and then they will get a kidney for practically free?  And then the same person that took your arm and leg comes back and said that they want a kidney, but not the one you offered.  No, the other one.  And that they were going to perform the surgery themselves with a very expensive piece of equipment that they would purchase themselves.  And that surgery was absolutely, positively, without a doubt going to happen RIGHT NOW because that was the time that works for them (not unlike when they took your arm and your leg)?  So now, after taking your arm and your leg begrudgingly, they are going to get a free kidney.  

And then there are the people that you offer a hand to and you find yourself years later, overhearing them talk at the table over tea about how your hand is the most AMAZING HAND THEY HAVE EVER SEEN and how your hand can do things that are impossible?  And that they don't even care that they are talking to the Michelangelos of hands and still they sing your praise?  And you realize that for these people, who never ask for anything, you would give every single limb, because they love your limbs and you love them for loving you?  

But it is only then, in your moment of insomnia hours later, that you realize that you have been consumed by the people that would rather steal your kidney (despite the fact that everyone who knows you and who has had to listen to you INCESSENTLY BITCH for MONTHS about your kidney dilemma has told you to either say NO or just give the effing kidney and get over it) and you have forgotten that the joy is in the giving and that some people just don't know how take unless they have taken everything.  And that they DON'T EVEN KNOW WHAT THEY ARE DOING and that this is how they have gotten through life this far and that they really don't mean any harm.  

And that every once in a while you just need to just be with the person who just KNEW that your hand could take a picture of her like this that would capture her love ....

   

and just stop whining about the kidney already.